Runaway Shepherds? Part 2

Yesterday we looked into an open window and learned why an increasing number of people are leaving ministry. Today we continue with "Runaway Shepherds?" by Chris Maxwell, an in depth look at what many pastor have not been properly trained to do and the challenges many are unaware of.

BLINDSIDED
Many of the leaders we spoke with were caught unaware by the challenges of ministry—prepared for the "hard skills" (e.g. preaching, counseling, study), but wanting the "soft skills" that often make or break the career pastor (e.g. connecting, leading, prioritizing).

"I wish I had learned at an earlier age how to connect. I don't mean 'connect' as in being a friend (which is necessary too), but connect as in 'I hear your heart,' " Greg Rice notes. "In pastoral training they usually teach that you need to connect, but not how to connect."

"For me it was the cost of pastoring—the toil it takes on you and your family. I'm not sure that the price is worth it at times," Scott George recalls. "I knew change had to happen when in right conscience I couldn't encourage my boys to follow in my footsteps."

"I wish someone had told me that my giftings didn't fit the normal pastoral mode," Garrett Bain notes. "I'm an extreme introvert, and compassion is not my strength." All of this begs the question, Are we expecting more from our pastors than God does?

Are we pushing rather than welcoming people into ministry?

Are we asking pastors to accomplish feats that only God can do?

Are we effectively training those entering ministry the crucial importance of mentoring, intimacy with God, family time, joy, Sabbath rests, personal time, days off and accountability groups?

Are these words experiential for today's leaders: laughter, peace, rest, naps, forgiveness, friends, silence?

Do pastors seek God's approval rather than congregations' applause?

GREAT EXPECTATIONS
George notes how church life has turned into a "circus act." He says pastors are expected to "juggle as many balls as we throw to you and don't drop any," and "to be as sharp and dynamic as the evangelist on TV." He believes many congregations have this expectation: "Everything I see the evangelists do on TV, I expect you to do."

Today's divorce numbers frighten each of us. Clergy also score high for marital problems, as the pulpit pressure seems to destroy or damage so many marriages and families. I asked these leaders why do such high numbers suffer from pressure, tension and often divorce? One pastor we spoke to remembers when he reached the conclusion to move away from a paid clergy position in a local congregation.

"After my wife divorced me and left me with three small children to raise, it was obvious I could not fulfill a pastoral ministry position," he says. "I needed to concentrate on being a dad."

Through painful years of taking care of his children, this pastor still uses his gifts to volunteer in churches and serve in a religious university.

Bain says, "It seems there is a lack of boundaries. After I quit, my dad told me that he wondered how long I could last considering the schedule I was keeping. One island of sanity was taking my day off seriously. If I was with a group of people and we were getting ready to eat, someone would say something along the lines of, 'you're the professional, why don't you say the blessing.' My response was, 'Someone else can pray, today is my day off.' Laughter would usually follow, and then came the uneasy silence while everyone realized I was serious."

Rice thinks ministers "let 'the ministry' come first, before their marriage and family." He believes however, there is more to it than that: "The ministry is a 'calling' that is intimately personal; it's difficult to separate 'the ministry' from God. Even if you know the dividing line between God and ministry, it's still difficult to maintain a balance because the line runs right through the center of your heart."

George emphasizes "the toll ministry takes on the family. It becomes your place of work, but it is also their place of worship. The demands you can't escape; wherever you go the pressures follow you."

Did any good events encourage these pastors during their seasons of ministry? Yes, they remember lives changed in positive ways, though that often happened through years of endurance and acceptance. They remember people who respected them, prayed for them, encouraged them and accepted them despite their own frailties. Weddings, baby dedications, prayers answered, conversions, seasons of growth, mission trips: each of these leaders remember names, taste the food and see the smiles from times of joy.

Most of those I interviewed doubt they will ever enter a church-related full-time ministry position again, though they hope to stay involved as helpers in local congregations and in the large market of Christ's body. A few are open to the possibility of returning to the roles where pain damaged them before. Some refused to answer; for one man just the thought was too much to discuss.

Patrick Lee works for a media communications corporation. He began a full-time church ministry career because of his passion for serving people and through the advice of others. The pressure of leading volunteers and not living up to expectations made ministry difficult for him. As he now enjoys employment as a manager in the business environment, he looks back and says: "I never bore the fruit I expected. Now I wonder if some of my expectations were wrong based on how the ministers, seminaries and others defined success."

Lee also believes that many churches "set impossible standards for ministers and their families." He says: "Christians are much more difficult to please, and ministry seems so much more about pleasing and judgment. By comparison, in the business world many people are more grateful for what you do for them."

How can today's pastors avoid burnout, stay in the ministry (if that is God's plan) or leave on good terms if they are playing the wrong position on God's team? Paul Slater (www.Change-Career-With-Purpose.com), a chaplain in San Diego, helps pastors feel appreciated and also guides them toward new careers. Here are a few of his recommendations:

• Seek regular counseling from an expert outside of the local congregation.
• Take days off: days to do "work" unrelated to church, days to spend time with family, days to just relax.
• Take a sabbatical: Get away for a long period of time. Pray. Write. Read. Have fun.
• Join an accountability group where honest confession and painful questions keep you moving in the right direction.
• Participate in spiritual gifts tests and personality profiles. If you are playing a position on a "church team" that you aren't made to play, change positions.
• Keep a journal. Write your own version of the Psalms. Confessions will be good for your soul, for your family and also for your congregation.
• Have an outsider critique sermons and decisions. Make sure inner struggles are not guiding the words spoken or written.
• See a physician. Exercise, eat right and laugh. Get enough sleep. Take naps.
• Truly believe the doctrine you proclaim. Grace. Hope. Joy. Peace. Forgiveness. Acceptance. Receive them in your inner world.
• Always remember this: God is the One to please and honor. Seek His applause.
  

George plans "to take the God-given skills, abilities and talents that were instrumental in full-time pastoring in another arena that is searching for the gospel to be seen in action."

"Seen." "In action." Those words remind us of both sides. The pain of ministry from being "seen" and trying to perform "in action." They also echo the heart of these leaders who hope to be seen by both God and people as followers of Christ who are still in action of ministry no matter their titles are on business cards.

Though many ministers have left the field, they are still playing the game on a winning team. And many are glad they finally found the right position to be more effective in working toward victory.

Runaway Shepherds? Part 1

"Train my people as a drill instructor trains troops." This is what the Lord told me in a dream eleven years ago. Those of you who have ever served in the military know that a drill instructor takes his time and teaches, methodically. He reinforces what he has taught over and over again, until his platoon gets it. He teaches this way because he understands that if you don't get it, the enemy will get you.

In in effort to do Gods will, the following article entitled "Runaway Shepherds?" by Chris Maxwell, is information for all pastors, regardless of denominations. It is also a great opened window that allows those in the pews to see into areas and issues of ministry that you may not know exists in the life of a pastor.

Part 1
Pastoral dropouts make easy targets for criticism. But who’s really to blame for ministry attrition?

We have names for them: "Dropout pastors." "Runaway shepherds." Those who "put their hand to the plow and look back." But are these disparaging descriptors telling the whole story? Statistics on pastoral attrition rates are notoriously difficult to pin down—often differing dramatically from denomination to denomination. (A frequently-cited 1998 report from Focus on the Family noted that 1,500 pastors leave the ministry each month due to moral failures, spiritual burnout or contention in their churches.)

Recently, Ministry Today sat down with some pastors who've left vocational ministry, to get their side of the story. Those we interviewed are not from a headline-making list of pastors dismissed because of moral errors. They're still following Christ—and even leading others to do the same. They're just not getting paid for it anymore. Some left just in time to avoid ministry burnout. Some waited too long. Others reached the conclusion that God has called everyone to ministry, and they can serve in other ways.

Scott George recently resigned as pastor of Destiny Church in Orlando, Florida. His 20 years in full-time ministry included 10 years in youth work and 10 years pastoring. He served at Calvary Assembly of God and Orlando Christian Center (both in Orlando), MetroChurch in Edmond, Oklahoma, and Word of Faith in Dallas—all before planting nondenominational Destiny Church. How did George reach the conclusion that God wanted him to plant a church?

"After 10 years in youth ministry I sensed that it was the right season to plant a church," he says. "With four small children I needed to settle down and limit the travel away from family."

Garrett Bain grew up a preacher's kid. His father's years of pastoring offered many chances for Bain to understand life in the church world. When Bain graduated from Bible college, no one told him that it might be OK to not enter full-time ministry. After a few jobs in the secular workplace, Bain entered the world of pastoral ministry. He served as a youth pastor of an International Pentecostal Holiness Church in Virginia for two years. Why did Bain enter that vocation?

"I felt 'called' somewhere around age 16," he says. "I'm sure that the fact that my dad was a minister also had something to do with it."

Greg Rice now works as a teleprompter. He has his own business after spending years working with a recording company. Before that? Rice worked as youth pastor, served on a church staff and then was asked to leave his position in an Assemblies of God church because the congregation had too many ministers to pay and not enough people attending. His decade in vocational ministry began because Rice sensed a "strong desire to minister," and he was also "encouraged by others" to pursue that.

So, how did each of these reach the conclusion that it was time to leave their church-based positions?

Bain explains how church leadership decisions helped make the choice for him. The church board decided they wanted a youth and children's pastor, Bain recalls. "I was barely a youth pastor, spending a lot of time visiting the senior citizens in the church," he says. "I definitely was not gifted to become a children's pastor."

Rice says, "I'm not sure that God wanted me to leave the ministry, but circumstances were that I couldn't stay in the full-time ministry, so I had to investigate other careers."

George reached the conclusion that God wanted him to leave the pastoral position when he was "having an internal struggle between the local family church and the outreach program we had established in our community." He remembers, "I felt as if it was impossible to do both effectively. My gifts and talents were needed for both but my heart was moving toward the outreach." He resigned as pastor and devoted his gifts in a food-distribution ministry.

Other reasons?
One "pastoral dropout" was in a denomination that refused to allow divorced men to serve as ordained ministers. Though his wife chose to leave him, he could not maintain his credentials.

A female pastor gave up because she could not take the "put-downs" any longer from those who felt God only wanted men in the pulpit.

A pastor eager to get help in his battle with pornography was dismissed from both pastoring and holding ministerial credentials; he now wonders if he should have told them at all.

What do these stories tell us about the reasons people leave full-time ministry? For one, there are healthy and unhealthy reasons: There is conviction. Some realize—often after years of painful struggle—that God never intended for them to serve in that capacity, or that their time in that slot has now concluded.

Another reason is conflict—and the pastors interviewed here reinforce it. Those in most key roles have battled conflict. Conflict comes wherever people are. But, when handled incorrectly and when battled privately with no help from outside the sanctuary's walls, the conflict causes a heartbreaking goodbye. Many never return. Fears control any possible dreams for ministry.

Improper training and preparation—or coaching—for ministry can also lead to early exits. Leaders should be taught much more than success stories and easy schemes. They must learn about life in the world of pastoring before they land there.

Then there's control—a board member, a long-term member, a new member, a member who seeks to make all decisions. Pastors endure births and deaths and marriage and divorce; they also are stared down by control freaks who insist on all things going their way.

Crisis. A sickness, a disease, a disability, a death. Churches can, and should, learn to bless leaders who leave under a crisis and not just wave goodbye with gladness. Seeing a counselor, allowing experienced clergy to mentor them, attending conferences for personal rather than congregational growth and reading books can help in addressing each of these trends.

More Important Now Than Ever!

I am not a supporter of politicians, nor do I take any fancy in politics. As a matter of fact, the only thing that I can do for a politician is what the Bible asks me to do, pray for them.

Politicians remind me of what Paul says in Romans 1:31 - 32, "They refuse to understand, break their promises, are heartless, and have no mercy. They know God's justice requires that those who do these things deserve to die, yet they do them anyway. Worse yet, they encourage others to do them, too." (NLT) Paul is talking about sinners in this scripture, and there is a lot sinning in politics.

With the Presidential election looming, along with the world economic crises and the manifestations of the End Times spoken of in the Bible, most famously in the Revelation, if there has ever been a time for a true preacher and teacher of the word of God, it is now.

Since the earliest beginnings of Christianity Christian preachers and teachers of the Gospel have been of the utmost importance. Our very first example of Christian preaching comes from the Book of Acts found in the New Testament of the Bible.

Christian preachers are some of the most important people in the world today. Preachers are leaders and serve as guides for the Christian community. In many Christian denominations, preachers and in some cases teachers of the gospel, are not referred to as preachers but pastors. This word has historical roots to the idea of pastoralism, and shows the idea of the preacher not just as a preacher but as a guide, a shepherd of the Christian community.

Preachers can be found in abundance throughout the Christian world. They come in all shapes and sizes and they all have their own distinct personalities and preaching styles. Some of the most well-known preachers, though not always a good thing, are the Television evangelists, better known as televangelists. Often associated with the more fundamentalist charismatic leading end of Christianity. Unfortunately many TV preachers have become known not for spreading the Gospel of Christ but for working to line their own pockets. While some televangelists such as Billy Graham are considering some of the most respected Christian preachers in the world, such cannot be said for many of the other TV preachers.

For most Christians, however, their primary interaction with preachers comes not through television but through their own local pastors or church. Whether they be Presbyterians, Methodists, Baptists, Pentecostals or whatever denomination, Christian preachers are at the forefront of their spiritual life.

Preachers serve not just pastors but also as teachers. One of their many missions is to teach about the Gospel of Christ as well as to teach people about the ministry of Jesus, the ministries of the disciples and the history of the Christian faith. They teach their communities about Christian theology, its development as well as Christianity's role in the world today.

Though the early Church did not have Sunday School, and Sunday School didn’t start until the 18th Century, today, most who have been called to TEACH God’s word, practice their gift teaching Sunday School. The principal purpose of God’s teachers is to preserve truth and to produce holiness by leading the body of Christ into an uncompromising commitment to God’s word.

In these trying times, Christian teachers and Christian preachers have never been more important. They are a vital part of our spiritual lives, and the spiritual has never seemed quite as important as they do in these times.

The Church bubble has Burst!

In 2001, after the Enron scandal, economists warned us that the tech bubble would burst, and indeed it did. In recent years, we've heard the same things about the housing bubble, and indeed it is happening.

There is another bubble that is about to burst. A bubble that has been inflated by the egos of church leaders. A church that has lived the lives of stars inhabiting luxurious empires and religious buildings, flaunting exaggerated and inflated congregations who in the past were giving huge coffers of money. Now, that the economy has taken a downward spiral, churches across the country have found themselves in the same state as the entertainment industry and Wal-Mart; having to come up with new marketing gimmicks to keep you coming; or, as the apostle Peter said in 2 Peter 2:3, "In their greed they will make up clever lies to get hold of your money." (NLT)

Churches and pastors across the country have found themselves unable to continue the lifestyle that they have become familiar and comfortable with, personally and as a church. So, in an attempt to ease their own conditions, they are burdening their church members.
(See, Giving Under Grace not Under Pressure) They have forgotten what Paul says in 2 Corinthians 8:13, when "For I mean not that other men be eased, and ye burdened." Paul was excited and pleased that the Corinthian church was WILLING to give and not PRESSURED to give, in order to help the Church in Jerusalem, but he did not want them to put themselves in a financial bind.

It never ceases to amaze me what some Church leaders will do and say to ease their own conditions, while burdening God's people. The people now have no more money to give. Just as the stock market is correcting itself, so is God correcting the wrong in the Church. The church bubble has burst! No longer will church leaders motivated by greed and selfishness, receive the kind of dollar amounts that they have become accustomed to.

Concerned, but Not Worried

A few years ago a heard a preacher mention something that I thought was quite interesting. While preaching a message, he gave a testimony on life circumstances, and he said that he has learned not to be worried, but rather concerned. He doesn't worry about his situations, but that doesn't mean he is not concerned. I thought about what he said, and thought it was quite interesting that he would use the word concerned, rather than worried.

This latest financial situation that our country is currently in is something to be concerned about. The economic decline and the current stock market down-turn has many folks worried about their jobs, their 401(k) as well as the current economy. You may not have noticed what happened this past week, but the media has been saying that last week was the worst time for the stock market since 1929; and in 1929, if you know your history, you know that was the year the stock market crashed. Let me clear the smoke for you, basically what they're saying is that last week, the stock market crashed. They won't say it in plain English because they don't want to alarm anybody. So, they're saying that the stock market has lost more last week than it ever has since 1929. Am I worried, nope! I'm not worried. I am concerned though, and there is a difference between being concerned verses being worried. Concerned means to be engaged, are to be a part of, to care, or care about. In other words, I am concerned about my 401(k) so, when you're concerned about something what you do is you go and find information, about what's going on. God will then give you the wisdom to know what to do.

In Matthew 6:19-34, Jesus gives us a blueprint on what to do in times like these. This is why I'm not worried. In the book of Matthew, chapter 6 verse 19 says, "don't store up treasures here on earth where moth eat them and rust destroy raise them and where thieves break in and steal. If you have a 401 (k), you have discovered that a lock won't help you, and if your treasure is your money, then yeah, you better worry.

Our treasure should be our relationship with God, and as long as you are engaged, connected with Him, I don't care what situation the economy is in, God's got your back.

To worry about something is to be harassed are disturbed by something repeatedly. If you are losing sleep because you are losing money in your 401(k) and or the stock market, let me share with you what Jesus said in Matthew 6:27, "Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?" I won't attempt to answer this question for you, but it won't. No matter what happens in this market, know that God has it all under control. He is going to right the wrong, and take care of His own. So, you have a right to be concerned, but don't you worry none.